I'm sure we all feel pretty much the same way when we gain weight. We hate how we feel and look. We don't want to be around hardly anyone. In our own heads we call ourselves fat, ugly, and any other word to keep us down. Trust me, I've been there, I've done that. Smile on the outside and feel horrible on the inside. We ALL do at some point. Maybe it only lasts a few days, but others it's years!
However, the biggest issue isn't just ourselves. Our negative thoughts control how we act towards others, our family. Top it off with being a military family and BAM the stress just becomes unreal! Your relationships suffer, your once 'happily ever after' marriage becomes more like live in room mates. Yeah, it's true that any relationship will suffer if you don't feel great about yourself, but us military couples live with a whole new level of communication. Deployments & TDY's come at the drop of a hat and without that strong backbone in your marriage these trips and long work days can add in trouble.
2 1/2 years ago my marriage was OK. Issue was, I felt bad about myself. I was jiggly, tired of not fitting into my clothes 1/2 the time, having health issues arise at WAY to young of an age, and honestly just didn't want my husband to touch me. I didn't like how I felt and knew it needed to change to get our marriage back where it should be!
When we first got married we would spend every evening together working out at the gym and our relationship was incredible! It gave us the energy and positive attitude that new marriages needed. Of course life sets in and we moved overseas. My dad passed away from a heart attack 3 months after moving away. Then 10 months later we lost our first born son, Conner at 28weeks and surviving just 25minutes after delivery. All THIS is our 1 year of marriage! We had every reason in the book to not work out as a couple. BUT all that we have been through just made us that much stronger together.
We pushed through and worked it out the best we could. Ending 5 years later with some bellies & health issues, but still with each other. When we moved overseas again that dread was in the back of my mind of all the horrible things that happened the last time. What if...?? But I took those needed steps ahead. I threw away all of my depression & anxiety pills, I got rid of those Slimquick pills, and I picked up P90X. My thought was....working out together made us the strong couple that carried us trough all of that all those years ago! We WILL be that strong loving couple again!
It wasn't easy in the beginning. My hubby was stubborn beyond all get out. Didn't like that I was sore & tired those first few weeks. He didn't like that I wasn't cooking up the same meals and sides as normal. But I stood firm. I knew he would come around and would recognize how much better I was feeling about myself. 30 days later, he began P90X. (BAM! I knew he would!!)
Fast forward to day. We've been overseas for 2 1/2 years now, through 2 deployments and a few TDYS. I do believe we have an even more solid relationship than we did 10 years ago. Being healthy & feeling good about ourselves has renewed our marriage. Having that common activity to be able to do together is awesome! I can easily say that beginning this lifestyle has rekindled our marriage. Deployments & TDYs are still tough no doubt, but having a stable mindset and constant goals to achieve together has been the KEY to making it to year 10.
Self confidence is amazing and the self doubt and negative thoughts are all gone! So when I offer to help others to lose weight, to feel great about themselves and get their life back I'm not just saying that to be catchy. You truly will CHANGE YOUR LIFE! I live it every single day with my family. I do these things day in and day out because it's our lifestyle.
So with all that being said I just came across a book that I think ALL military families should have. Because for me getting healthy is a family affair I will be giving this book to Every Single person in my Challenge Groups. It was a Challenge Group that saved my life & marriage and I hope to do the same for you. The journey is 1/2 physical and 1/2 mental. You will be getting a copy of The 5 Love Languages Military Edition.
Can't wait to help yo live your best life! I run these groups every single month in a private online group. If you're looking to change your life please contact me so we can get started!
